You can endure for years without feeling it, and then bam! Suddenly one day you meet someone new and the spark flies left, right and center – the chemistry is undeniable. No relationship works without chemistry and compatibility between the two involved.
Each of us has our own idea of what chemistry means in a relationship. For some, it could be an effortless back and forth. For others, it might be the ability to know exactly what the other person is thinking and feeling. Chemistry can be instantaneous or accumulate over time. It solely depends on the bond you share with your partner. Here are some signs that will let you know if there is chemistry between you and your partner. Continue reading.
1. Instant Fascination
One of the first things you notice about a person is their looks. Even if you say you don’t care about a person’s looks, they still play an important role in a relationship. You know you have chemistry when you instantly feel an attraction — from the captivating glances or the beguiling looks you keep exchanging.
2. Body language
If there’s anything else besides your eyes that can give away your feelings, it’s your body language. Women tend to play with their hair, lick their lips and cross their legs to get your attention. Men, on the other hand, get sweaty hands because they desperately want to stay next to you. The deep breaths, stained cheeks, unconscious mimicry, persona bias and unconscious touch are some signs that you are being betrayed regardless of your gender.
3. Intense eye contact
When you feel like you have chemistry with someone, subconsciously keep looking at them — paying attention to what they’re wearing or doing and trying to make eye contact. But when they catch you looking at them, you cringe. These are intense eye contacts between the two of you while you are speaking or interacting with them. Other telltale signs of eye chemistry include dilated pupils, raised eyebrows, looking between eyes and lips, and focused, unbroken eye contact.
4. Flirting
Flirting is a part of all relationships. When the chemistry between you and someone is right, you tend to dilute it to the point where you both know you’re flirting but the people around you don’t. They flirt with text messages but are careful never to cross a line. The hugs you share are longer than the hugs you would give to others. You hug them tighter, squeeze their hands, rub their backs, or give them a kiss on the cheek. It all feels incredibly intense!
5. Always smile
You know you have chemistry with someone when you always smile, whether they’re around or not. When you’re with them, they’ll find reasons to make you smile, even when you don’t want to. You smile when you think of them when they’re not around. Even if they are on another continent, they can make you smile. If this is the smile phenomenon, then they are what you have been looking for.
6. Noticing small things/changes
Small details are necessary for a beautiful overall picture. When you share a special connection with someone, you notice things that others don’t. From a new haircut, new clothes, her favorite things, likes, dislikes, nervous tics, to how to calm her down and cheer her up – you notice everything and make an effort to acknowledge her. Make sure you pay close attention to the stories/incidents they tell and memorize them down to the last detail.
7. Losing track of time
The phrase “time flies when you’re having fun” is an embodied trait of what happens when you’re with this person. Time literally seems to be running out, leaving you both behind. You have enough common interests that you can talk about anything and everything. There are so many things you want to tell each other.
8. Tension
Not the stress-inducing kind of tension, but a physical tension always seems to exist between the two of you. When you are attracted to someone, sexual attraction is part of it. The flirting and teasing consists of sexual innuendo and you just can’t keep your hands off it.
9. get closer to each other
If the two of you are constantly trying to get close to each other in a crowded place, ignoring the world and getting lost in yourself, it’s a sign that you have chemistry. If you find yourself wanting to spend more and more time together and desire more and more affection and emotional intimacy when you are together, the chemistry is right.
10. Not paying attention to the people around you
Wherever and whenever you are together and whatever you do, it feels like just the two of you matter and you are the only two people in the world. In a world where cell phones are an addiction, when a person makes you put them aside, it’s the “one” you’ve been looking for.
11. Pheromones
Pheromones are chemicals that affect or excite you when you are attracted to someone. They produce a sweet body odor that is attractive to the opposite sex (1). That means if you’re both attracted to the way you smell, then there’s chemistry between you.
12. Enjoy the pleasant silence
When you talk, countless topics are available to you. Time seems to go by faster than it should. But even if you don’t talk, the silence doesn’t come across as embarrassing, but understanding. There is a comfortable silence that you both enjoy in each other’s company.
13. Experience butterflies or the whole damn zoo
That weird tingling feeling you get when you’re looking forward to something is what people call “butterflies in your stomach.” But it’s more like having a whole zoo pounding in your stomach when you feel the chemistry between you and someone.
14. I look forward to seeing you again
When the two of you meet, sparks fly and you have such a great time that you can lose yourself in the moment. And when it’s time for you to return to the real world, it’s heartbreaking. You can’t wait to meet again and count down the days until your next meeting. If every moment with them feels like a moment of perfect synergy, it could be a sign that you’ve found a related connection.
15. Lead playful banter
The playful banter includes flirting and teasing. Such harmless things are a playful way to keep each other focused on what you both share.
16. Teasing each other
What do you do when you want to elicit a reaction from someone? You “annoy” them playfully. The little jokes you have, the nicknames you use when you push each other around, mimic each other, playfully poke fun at each other, and anything you do to evoke a reaction from them serve as conversation starters. Teasing could indicate a strong relationship between the two people, which seems to deepen with every joke. However, remember that teasing is meant to be amusing and affectionate, not to offend or hurt one another.
17. The anticipation
Even though all of these signs show that there is chemistry between you and the person you are interested in, you may still have an anxious feeling about whether they feel the same way or not. You want to get more out of the relationship and solve the mystery so only the two of you can be together.
In summary, chemistry between two people can manifest in a variety of ways, including instant attraction, intense eye contact, and flirting. Other signs include smiling constantly when thinking about each other, noticing small details about each other, and losing track of time when together. Physical tension, approaching crowded places, and enjoying comfortable silence are also indicators of chemistry. Pheromones, butterflies in the stomach and playful banter are other signs in addition to the anticipation of being together. When these signs are present, it indicates a strong connection and the potential for a fulfilling relationship.
